English For Students

What's in a Story? by Paula Harris
I've always found that cross dressers and the transgendered love to read stories. But what is it about a cross dressing story that people find so intriguing?

It's certainly true that stories help people make sense of themselves and their lives. Through stories we share life experiences and try to connect and identify with others. At a time when advancements in technology allow communication on a global level, making friends with other like-minded individuals has never been easier. A story helps relationships to be formed and support networks to be strengthened and maintained.

With all the challenges and turmoil commonly experienced by cross dressers, many look to gain a deeper understanding of their dilemmas by listening to what others have to say. By learning how other cross dressers have dealt with similar situations, guidance and direction are sought. Quite often, words of advice are embedded within a story, for others to follow and learn from.

Stories form a means by which ideas are transmitted from one person to another. A story can often highlight different ways of doing things and alternative behaviour patterns. A fresh perspective can be instrumental in helping an individual get a handle on a situation much quicker than he would otherwise have been able to.

From the storytellers view, a story allows memories to be captured, relived and shared. Talking about one's life and any life-changing events allows an individual to give specific events meaning and purpose. In the life of a cross dresser, self-acceptance, coming out and making decisions about gender identity and transition are all milestone events. A story allows the expression of deep emotions surrounding these events and can assist the story teller in addressing issues that he may have tried to avoid. Often, this is a necessary to allow a person to move on in life.

A story encompasses memories from the past, an individual's take on the present and hopes and aspirations for the future. It allows a person to take a snap-shot of his life and aids acceptance of a new identity. One is then able to accommodate life change and be prepared for the challenges that lie ahead.

Everyone has a unique story to tell and by sharing it with others, we create connection. For so many cross dressers around the globe, the fear of isolation is common. By connecting with others through stories and other means, a much needed lifeline brings hope.

Paula Harris tells her own cross dressing story at http://www.cross-dressing-secrets.com/.